How are you? No really, how are you?
As a leader or coach, it's essential to be attuned to the needs and concerns of your team or clients. But all too often, we can be blindsided by issues that others are aware of but don't bring to our attention.
““The most powerful connection is the one that can be made when we authentically check in with someone and ask, ‘How are you?’”
One strategy I've found useful in avoiding this pitfall is taking the time to authentically check in with people before meetings, conversations, or calls. By genuinely asking "How are you?" and really listening to the response, you can create a safe and grounded space for others to be present and open with you.
But authentic check-ins aren't always easy to come by. The first answer to "How are you?" is often the polite, superficial one – the "I'm fine, let's just get on with the meeting" response. But by asking a second or even third time, you may see a physical response – a loosening of the shoulders, an intake of breath, a sigh – that gives you a deeper understanding of how someone is really feeling.
By authentically checking in with others, you can create a more supportive and effective work environment, where people feel seen and heard and are able to bring their best selves to the table. If you're interested in learning more about what it means to be an authentic leader and how to develop strategies that work for you, check out my Leadership coaching program. Together, we'll partner on your challenges as a leader and set goals for overcoming them.